Perfection: Creativity’s Kryptonite || By Phannie Krentzman

What is perfection? “The condition, state or quality of being free or free as possible from all flaws or defects.”  This definition, from Webster, requires an agreement of what that condition of perfection means. Where does that idea come from? How do we construct the ideal perfection, why do we need perfection and what does…

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When Emotions Take Over: Working with Parts Instead of Fighting Them || By Annabelle Denmark, LPC

Life brings uncertainty, loss, and relational pain. When it does, our nervous systems react. Tension rises. Big feelings surface—fear, anger, loneliness, rejection. If those feelings build without support, they can push us toward extreme coping strategies: addiction, self-harm, suicidal thoughts. For people who have experienced ongoing or repeated trauma, these emotional states can begin to…

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The Worst Has Happened, Now What? || By JT Nolan, LPC

The Stages of Change Model of Grief There’s a scene in “The Two Towers” (the second “Lord of the Rings” movie) where King Théoden receives the news that his son is dead. After Gandalf reassures him that his death was not his fault, Théoden replies, “No parent should have to bury their child.” I remember…

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Staying Present in Sexual Experiences: A Nervous System–Informed Perspective || By TJ Dubovich, MA, MFTC

Many people come to therapy wondering why it feels so difficult to stay present during sexual experiences—whether alone or with partner(s). They may describe distraction, self-criticism, numbness, anxiety, or a sense of going through the motions rather than truly inhabiting their bodies. These experiences are far more common than most people realize. They are not…

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