Posts Tagged ‘Sexuality’
Staying Present in Sexual Experiences: A Nervous System–Informed Perspective || By TJ Dubovich, MA, MFTC
Many people come to therapy wondering why it feels so difficult to stay present during sexual experiences—whether alone or with partner(s). They may describe distraction, self-criticism, numbness, anxiety, or a sense of going through the motions rather than truly inhabiting their bodies. These experiences are far more common than most people realize. They are not…
Read MoreI Think, Therefore I’m Not: Breaking Free from Limiting Mindsets || By Rick Garcia, Certified Sex/Cannabis Coach, LMT
As a child, my favorite book was The Monster at the End of This Book. It’s a great read for kids with lessons that carry over into adulthood. Spoiler alert: Grover knows there’s a monster at the end of the book and is terrified. Each page brings him closer to what he imagines to be…
Read MoreShould We Advance or Evolve in the Bedroom? || By Rick Garcia, Certified Sex/Cannabis Coach, LMT
As a sex coach, I often find amazing metaphors about life in odd places and I find a way to translate them into sexual health. I recently found myself watching a TV show that focused on technology. This show was great and at its core it was a cautionary tale about the dangers of advancing. …
Read MoreBreaking the Chains of Shame || By Rick Garcia, Certified Sex/Cannabis Coach, LMT
Welcome to another blog installment. Full disclosure, this post will dive into the waters of sexuality, shame and guilt. These concepts are charged, and if you find them triggering, then you have a choice: you can stop reading and come back to this article when you are in a better space, or, if you find…
Read MoreThe Myth of Escalator Sex || By TJ Dubovich MFTC
In the realm of sexuality, there is a pervasive myth that suggests desire should always be like an escalator, consistently and predictably moving upwards. This idea implies that if you and your partner are truly compatible, you should effortlessly slide into a state of continuous, unending desire. Not only that but once you both have…
Read MoreEmbracing Abandonment: Shifting Focus to Pleasure || By Rick Garcia, Certified Sex/Cannabis Coach, LMT
Please don’t let the title fool you, we are going to be discussing pleasure and orgasm. If this is not a subject you want to explore right now; then please come back when you’re ready. In a world filled with expectations and pressures, our sexual experiences often become centered around achieving the big “O”. However,…
Read MoreWhen you and your partner have different expressions of love || By Rick Garcia, Certified Sex/Cannabis Coach, LMT
Now don’t let the title fool you, while there can be different ways to express love, we are looking at this with the lens of sex and sexuality. This blog is not exactly NSFW, but it kind of depends on where you work and if you want to read a blog about sex. You can…
Read MoreAttraction, Admiration & Adoration || By Rick Garcia, Certified Sex/Cannabis Coach, LMT
I had the most interesting session with a really great woman last month, which led to a wonderful and complex conversation. Before I get to that, I want to just say up front that she asked me to write a blog about this; no names will be used and I was given full permission as…
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