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Choose Your Compensation Carefully || By Laura Zwisler, LPC
In the world of couples therapy, Love Language is a staple. For those of you unfamiliar with the idea, the gist is that we prefer to receive love in ways that meet our own particular emotional needs over general acts of love. That is, when people we love show up for us, it’s better if they do…
Perfection: Creativity’s Kryptonite || By Phannie Krentzman
What is perfection? “The condition, state or quality of being free or free as possible from all flaws or defects.” This definition, from Webster, requires an agreement of what that condition of perfection means. Where does that idea come from? How do we construct the ideal perfection, why do we need perfection and what does…
When Emotions Take Over: Working with Parts Instead of Fighting Them || By Annabelle Denmark, LPC
Life brings uncertainty, loss, and relational pain. When it does, our nervous systems react. Tension rises. Big feelings surface—fear, anger, loneliness, rejection. If those feelings build without support, they can push us toward extreme coping strategies: addiction, self-harm, suicidal thoughts. For people who have experienced ongoing or repeated trauma, these emotional states can begin to…
The Worst Has Happened, Now What? || By JT Nolan, LPC
The Stages of Change Model of Grief There’s a scene in “The Two Towers” (the second “Lord of the Rings” movie) where King Théoden receives the news that his son is dead. After Gandalf reassures him that his death was not his fault, Théoden replies, “No parent should have to bury their child.” I remember…
What Your Dreams Are Trying to Tell You—and How Therapy Can Help || By Deanna Edwards, LPCC
Have you ever woken up from a dream that stayed with you all day? Dreams are more than random images—they’re windows into our subconscious, reflecting our emotions, fears, and desires in ways our waking mind often misses. Take this dream, for example: The hotel keeps rearranging itself. Hallways stretch and fold, doors breathe softly, lights…
Staying Present in Sexual Experiences: A Nervous System–Informed Perspective || By TJ Dubovich, MA, MFTC
Many people come to therapy wondering why it feels so difficult to stay present during sexual experiences—whether alone or with partner(s). They may describe distraction, self-criticism, numbness, anxiety, or a sense of going through the motions rather than truly inhabiting their bodies. These experiences are far more common than most people realize. They are not…
What Do We Do When We’re Scared? || By Bre Smith
Sometimes when I feel really scared my system (body/mind) feels like it goes “offline.” What I mean by this is if my brain ran on Wi-Fi, my Wi-Fi went out. I don’t have access to the functioning I typically do (or that is expected of me socially). For us psych nerds, I am speaking to…
Relearning How to Love (or, Stop Consuming Your Partner) || By Taylor Arroganté-Reyes, LPCC
Much of the work of therapy is learning to tolerate what we cannot control. Difficult, of course. But theoretically, simple enough.Enter scene: partner. Not so simple. A Pew Research poll from 2021 found that nearly 70% of adults rated their dating lives as “not going well,” and a little over half said dating has gotten…
Everyone Is On a Hero’s Journey || By Beth Hinnen, Certified Mindfulness and Meditation Teacher
If Joseph Campbell popularized the hero’s journey, then J.R.R. Tolkien made it palpable with the Lord of the Rings (LOTR) trilogy. Every year, between Christmas and New Year’s, I watch all 3 movies. It used to be in one day, starting at 8 am. And given that I watch the extended versions — a full…
Closing the Loop || By Laura Zwisler, LPC
It’s no surprise after the excess of the holidays that we buckle down and set some goals when we get to the new year. Of course we want to get back to something that feels healthier and sustainable, but I’ve started to wonder if setting goals is really the way forward. I propose that instead…
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The opinions expressed by the guest bloggers are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of People House. The content provided through the People House website and blogs are for informational purposes only. Should you decide to take action in real life based on this information that is your own responsibility and choice.
