Feeling Stuck? – How to Stop Spinning Your Wheels ll By Brenda Bomgardner

Feeling Stuck? – How to Stop Spinning Your Wheels
By Brenda Bomgardner

Life doesn’t always find us cruising in the “fast lane.”

We make unexpected twists and turns.

Though sometimes this can be a good thing. Often, we discover fantastic opportunities that we never imagined.

However, in other instances, you find yourself getting stuck in life.

Instead of progressing the way you wanted, you are spinning your wheels.

This could be for a variety of reasons, such as not finding yourself where you want in your career.

Or, your relationship causes you to feel stuck. Either way, there are ways that you can get unstuck and get moving again.

1. Stop What You Are Doing

The first thing to do is stop what you are doing and pause. Of course, this is a metaphor that applies to your life. I am not suggesting that just because you don’t like your job, you should stop going to work!

However, you can pause when it comes to your life in general. Take a step back and reflect on what’s going on. Sometimes we focus so hard on making something work, we miss out on the big picture. Sometimes persistence at going for the gold works as you eventually break through a barrier. Other times persistence keeps you stuck and spinning your wheels.

Remember, if you want to stop spinning your wheels the first thing to do is take your foot off of the accelerator. Give yourself a brake – break. Take a breather and let things percolate.

2. Take Some Space

Next, take some space for yourself by creating distance between your day-to-day life. Why? Because the demands of our daily lives can distract us from getting perspective.

Now, you don’t have to retreat to a monastery in the mountains for months on end. However, what if you just took a day to yourself to reflect and think? That’s right percolate. No TV, no cell phone use. Just yourself and your thoughts.

A drive in the countryside could work. Or, spending the day at a local park. The objective is for you to slow down. I have a saying, “An ounce of solitude gives you a pound of serenity.”

3. Use Freewriting and Journaling

Have a thought? Take that thought and write it down on paper. This doesn’t have to be a formal essay. It could even be just certain words or phrases that occur to you.

Writing helps to organize what you are thinking and to have something to refer back to later.

Allow your mind to drift by considering the following topics:

Where are you now?

Where are you headed?

What were your original goals or objectives?

How do you feel?

Give yourself broad questions but be specific in your answers. Consider whether or not you truly are content or are wishing to make a change.

4. Make a Goal

If you want to get unstuck, start by making a goal towards the direction you want. This doesn’t have to be a big step. You don’t have to quit your job overnight and go from being a banker to an artist.

However, if this your desire long-term, why not start off by creating some art in your free time? Join a local group of artists as you might find out about the business of art. Volunteer at a museum.

Small goals are more manageable than broad ones. Plus, they allow you to start making changes from spinning your wheels to moving in the direction you desire.

5. Get Professional Coaching or Get an Accountability Buddy

These are great first steps towards getting unstuck. Yet, to create effective change, find a professional coach who can help. An accountability buddy is a sure fire way to keep movement in your life. It only takes one other person to make a difference. It’s important your meet on a regular basis.

If an accountability buddy is not working a professional coach can help you to maintain the momentum you’ve started and to make sure that the changes you make last. Plus, a coach can be a great support for when you feel stuck. They are trained in skills to create movement.

That way, you don’t find yourself spinning your wheels instead, and can maintain your progress.


It takes time to get unstuck, but you don’t have to be spinning your wheels forever. Making some small changes can help get things back on track.

Plus, a professional coach will be able to help you ensure that those changes are lasting. Please, contact me today if you’re at a place of feeling stuck in your own life.

To learn more about Brenda visit her About Me page

About the Author: Brenda Bomgardner is in her encore career. One of her greatest joys in her career is seeing people move beyond life’s roadblocks toward a fulfilling and meaningful life. She believes each person has a purpose in life waiting to be realized that evolves over a lifetime. And the path to reaching your life’s purpose is as unique as each individual. We all have dreams. Step by step she will walk with you on uncovering how to bring your dreams to fruition.  Brenda is a counselor, coach and clinical supervisor and specializes in practicing Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) which is a cutting edge evidenced-based processes. This means there is scientific research proven to show ACT works. Before becoming a therapist, she completed a successful 17 year career in Human Resources at a Fortune 500 company. On a personal note she loves the great outdoors, ATV riding, adventure travel and family.

To learn more about Brenda visit her About Me page, https://brendabomgardner.com/brenda-bomgardner/

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