Archive for February 2015

Growing Pains: Mercy – Lydia Taft

Many years ago I was a Sunday school teacher for seven-year-old children.  I was responsible for preparing them for baptism when they turned eight.  One of the lessons I taught required me to line up chairs around the room in a maze.  I was to walk the children blindfolded through the maze and to a picture of Christ.  As I blindfolded one of the students she looked at me with hesitation and begged, “Please be careful with me Sister Taft.” 

My heart was touched by her simple statement and a truth was revealed to me…

That is my prayer always, every day of my life. 

Please be careful with me Spirit.  Please be careful with me.  I don’t know what road I’m traveling and I’m uncertain about the obstacles laid out before me, but I will allow you to guide me on my journey.  Just please be careful with me.  Have mercy on me in my fear and ignorance.

That day I realized how much fear I carried in my heart about what the future held.  I had based my opinions on many past experiences that I had suffered.  I understood that my life was in my hands. I had the free will to make decisions.  And that was the problem.  I was sitting in judgment about how well I messed up my life.  I was sitting in judgment about what my life looked like.  And I was sitting in judgment about all the pain I had recently experienced, which I hoped to never face again.  I held tightly to the fearful thought that I would continue down the same dark path.  So I asked for mercy from a greater being than myself, hoping I might avoid more pain.

I understand that prayer a bit differently now. 

I have learned that I didn’t need to ask Spirit for mercy.  I was already viewed from a loving perspective.  Love is only ever capable of love.  I really only needed to ask myself for mercy. I needed to find compassion in my own heart for me. I needed to release the judgments that weighed me down.  Yes, I had experienced some painful things, but what I didn’t realize at the time was how much clarity I had also received about the type of future I desired.  In the knowing of what I didn’t want, I more fully understood what I did want. My fear stemmed from my lack of understanding that I was being propelled toward something greater.  I am pleased to realize that I got here despite myself. 

Looking back on that past prayer I see that, like me, it has transformed and grown in clarity. 

My joy and my pain remain in my hands. 

It’s only ever my focus that must be directed, and sometimes redirected.  Today I can acknowledge the love that is always flowing to me, my ability to be receptive to that love, and the truth that is me.  Today my prayer would more accurately say:

I promise I will be careful and kind with me.  I am valuable.  The roads that I choose to travel on will honor my inner being.  I will seek experiences that feel joyful and fulfilling to me.  I will not worry myself about avoiding things that are painful.  When I find myself feeling that I have gone off course, I will seek clarity about the experiences I would prefer.  I will guide myself on this journey with love and compassion. I will walk in trust, acknowledging that all experiences I have enhance and broaden my perspective.  I will seek and find clarity in all areas of my life.  And most of all, I will be merciful with me.

Play: Not just for Kids – Monica Myers

The opposite of play is not work, it is depression. –Brian Sutton-Smith

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Brueghel: 1560

 

The New York Times magazine described it as “Deeper than gender, seriously but dangerously fun, and a sandbox for new ideas about evolution.”  What is it?

 Play.

Play is actually serious business. It is universal and timeless; and it is the most productive and enjoyable activity that children undertake.

Free, imaginative play is vital for normal social, emotional and cognitive development. We now have the scientific research to document the crucial role it plays in the healthy neurological development of children. Unstructured, imaginative play has many benefits: it helps build social skills, strengthens confidence, develops a self-concept, improves problem solving, promotes emotional regulation, teaches boundaries and self-awareness, and the list goes on and on. In summary, it makes us better adjusted, smarter and less stressed.

These benefits seem pretty obvious to anyone who has ever observed children on a playground, and one wonders why we need science to validate them. The fact is that unstructured play in America has decreased so alarmingly in the past decade that the American Academy of Pediatrics, among others, are defending play in formal statements and recommendations.

Are today’s kids in danger of missing out on something essential, or is this adult nostalgia because children are playing differently than we did?

While pondering this question and conducting research for the Child Development class I was teaching, I came across an interesting TED talk by Dr. Stuart Brown. Dr. Brown is trained in general and internal medicine, psychiatry and clinical research and is also the founder of the National Institute for Play. I was astounded to learn that we had an institute dedicated to research on play, and it certainly piqued my curiosity. I learned that Dr. Stuart Brown came to study play through research on murderers – strange as that sounds — after he found a stunning common pattern in killers’ stories: a serious play deprivation history in childhood. Since then, he’s interviewed thousands of people to catalog their relationships with play, noting a strong correlation between success and playful activity.

I was impressed with Dr. Brown’s TED talk and struck by several of the images. The first was the collection of compelling examples of play in the animal kingdom. He poses the convincing argument that play is a biological and evolutionary imperative. Brown called play part of the ‘‘developmental sequencing of becoming a human primate. If you look at what produces learning and memory and well-being, play is as fundamental as any other aspect of life, including sleep and dreams.’’ Further, he insinuates that play is essential for social connection and bonding as “the basis of human trust is established through play signals.” He argues that we have begun to lose these play signals as adults in modern culture as we increasingly relegate play to the realm of childhood. Hmm…what are the implications of this?

Second, he compels us to take a historical perspective, and think about the dramatic changes in culture over the recent past. He makes references to historical images from the 15th century that portray entire communities—adults and children alike—engaged in various types of play (see Brueghel’s painting above) and asks, have we lost something today?

Why are adults not playing anymore, or at least not playing with such frequency, freedom and abandon?

I was reminded of Dr. Brown’s argument that play is not just for children the other day. It was a Untitled-1Wednesday and I could not shake my lethargy and sluggishness; I felt down and unmotivated. I had been highly focused and engaged in my work over the past several days, returning home in the evenings to my computer, researching, answering emails, and engaged in work-related tasks. Suddenly it was mid-week, and I felt lusterless. I remember pondering my heaviness as I drove to a commitment to help facilitate a children’s art therapy workshop. The transformation of my mood soon startled me. Literally within moments of entering the space of play, I felt shaken out of my three-day slump. The six year olds’ play was full of spontaneity, spirit, and pure joy and I found myself feeling inspired and creative as I joined them.

I have no doubt that play changes the brain’s biochemical situation and that adults regularly need its intrinsic rewards. We tap into our own youthful energy when we connect with the spirit of play and there is nothing more restorative. In his TED talk, Stuart Brown talks about the importance of play in adults to unleash collaboration, innovation, engagement and productivity. Stuart Brown’s research shows play is not just joyful and energizing — it’s deeply involved with human development and intelligence. But don’t take my word for it—check out his TED talk at the link below and see for yourself.

 

I welcome your responses, questions, and curiosities. Please direct them to Monica Myers at monimyers69@gmail.com.

Warriors Way LLC: No More Complaining – Glenn Bott

We all know people who are chronic complainers.  No matter what happens in their life, they find something to complain about.  If someone gave them a suitcase with a million dollars in it they’d complain about the bills being the wrong denomination.

Amazing.

The more a person complains, the less personal power they have. 

Think of those you know who are complainers and see if this theory fits with you experience.  Complaining is not assuming responsibility for a personal decision.  For whatever reason, they chose to be a participant in the situation they’re complaining about.  In my experience, complainers don’t have a Glenn Blogg picturepositive attitude and seem to define themselves by what is wrong in their life instead of all the good things happening.

Complaining is a habit they’ve perpetuated.  As Dr. Phil says, there has to be some sort of payoff or they wouldn’t keep doing it.  Maybe they get attention, or people feel sorry for them and they get a little more loving.  Regardless, they’re diminishing their personal power and are in a slow spiral to more negativity and ever diminishing personal power.

Like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together, what you focus on expands.  It’s been said many ways, but the bottom line results are always the same:  complainers attract more complainers and will often get together and have a full-blown pity party about how much their life sucks.  They’ll spend time trying to top what was previously said to show how much worse their life is.  Trying to win the pity factor and give people a reason to feel sorry for them.

My suggestion is to get and stay as far away as possible from these people.  They aren’t there to support you or build you up.  They’re more interested in their own shortcomings and how difficult their life is.  They aren’t wired to build people up and will most likely find reasons why you won’t succeed and why you shouldn’t waste your time trying.

If you’re not careful they’ll suck the life right out of you.

Do a personal inventory of the people you know in your life.  Look at those who are succeeding and moving forward with a positive outlook.  A common trait they have is they don’t complain and won’t waste their time in pity-parties.  They know there is nothing to be gained from that.  If they do fail, they brush themselves off, analyze and learn from their experience, and move forward wiser, smarter, and more committed to achieving their desired goal.

Begin increasing your personal power by taking responsibility for EVERYTHING that happens in your life. 

All the good, bad, and seemingly indifferent is all there to support you and you attracted it.  Personal power is something decided by each of us.  Society teaches that we live our lives and “things” just happen to us, and there’s nothing we can do about it.

Not so.

Glenn Blogg 2We are extremely powerful and create our lives every moment of every day.  New scientific evidence now supports this long-held belief.  What used to be mystical is now being scientifically proven.  We control of our lives by what we think and feel.  Nothing else.  If you aren’t getting what you want then change it.  There is no one to blame except you.

Realize your power and start using it and having fun.  Create the life you want, doing what you want, when you want, and how you want.  The Universe will support you and deliver results in totally unexpected ways and with much better results than you could have even imagined.

Toilet Training for my Inner Child: A DEATH IN THE FAMILY – Rev. Stephen “Clyde” Davis

Recently the People House community lost one of our own. She had been a veritable fixture at People House for decades, and then, suddenly, took her own life. I knew her, and not just casually. I had the valuable experience of taking several Facilitator Training courses with her, and had participated in many other classes and workshops with her as well.

The first feelings I had after hearing of her passing were surprise, sadness and disappointment. I was surprised because I didn’t see it coming; I was sad because I miss her, and I was disappointed because her family will not have her for a resource as they live their lives. I was also disappointed that she hadn’t sought me out when things got tough.

The next awarenesses were of her daughter and grandchild, and her long-time companion who has been a friend of mine for many years. I spoke with her companion and learned more about her life before the end. I became more saddened and even a little concerned.

It brought up a number of questions for me about the part I might have played, or didn’t play, in the circumstances surrounding her death. I know from listening to her about much of the pain, trauma and sadness she had encountered during her life, and felt I had done a more-than-adequate job of facilitating her process when given the opportunity. What nagged at me, though, was the question that still whispers sometimes in the back of my mind – did I do enough?

I realize that dwelling on that question would not be a healthy thing for me to do, but I thought my awareness of it would be important to share with you. As a spiritual leader here at People House, I feel a responsibility to the community to give what assistance I can to those who need a little help, a compassionate shoulder to lean on and a non-judgmental ear to listen. Maybe in this instance, I felt even more responsibility because I felt she needed more than just a little help. I’m still not sure.

Did I fail her – did I let her down when she needed me the most?

I will never be certain one way or another. Yes, I had been available and no, she hadn’t asked. But that knowledge doesn’t erase the doubt. And that doubt springs almost completely from my inner child – the little boy in me that doesn’t know what to do, or isn’t sure he can provide whatever may be needed. Because I grew up in an environment that did not foster a sense of my own value and strengths, it took many years of psychological and spiritual growth to overcome the doubts about myself I held on to so strongly. And even today I still question. Thankfully, I now have many resources at my disposal and many tools in my toolkit, not the least of which is the caring and supportive environment I find at People House.

It is situations like these that reinforce my belief in embracing uncertainty. By welcoming my doubts, my not-knowing, I open the door to new beliefs, new possibilities. By allowing no resolution to occur, I can embrace those I couldn’t imagine. By suspending judgment about my behavior, I can rest free of guilt and shame.

Until next time,

Clyde

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These services are available for anyone in crisis and for those who are supporting someone in crisis. Do not hesitate to call. Trained professionals are ready to help.

Growing Pains: New Things Are Possible Now – Lydia Taft

Transformation is on my mind.  Transformation, change, movement, growth… whatever one decides to call it, it is stalking me.  I see the clock and it reads 5:55.  The license plate, the tarot cards, the signs all around me read 5.  My attention is 5 oriented.  Change, change, change.  I am haunted by the idea.

I realize I’ve never fully embraced the idea of change.  It’s different, it’s new, and it’s unknown.  I sit here and feel this idea out.  Regardless of whether I welcome change or not, there’s no denying that I am ready to give birth to something new.  That statement resonates as true.  As I write that, I recall the experience of pregnancy and ultimately giving birth to my two daughters.  The very first thought that comes to mind was that it was painful, but if I am truly honest with myself, I realize it was also so much more. 

It began with expectation, and dreaming, and imagining what might be.  It was exciting.  I was expanding in every way.  My body, my emotions, my thoughts, my identity: they all grew and carried me along.  Ultimately, when it was time to give birth, any fears I might have held about the unknown future no longer mattered because there was no going back.  I gave birth.  Each time, with each daughter, when the nurse placed my child in my arms, I was this new being.  They were born and I was born.  I was transformed.  No matter how painful, there is not a single moment of my birthing experience that I would wish away. 

My beautiful daughters have continued to enhance my life.  They have challenged me to expand over and over again.  If I was stuck on one way of thought… well, they would offer unlimited other ways to view a situation.  With them, I’ve had infinite opportunities to release, to embrace, and to expand my perception of self and the world we share.  

Yes, sometimes this growth has been painful. There have been many ideas I’ve not wanted to release.  There have been many moments I’ve fought my own expansion and I suffered in my struggle.  I’ve built walls and have had them torn down.  I’ve held firmly to my own opinions and fought to keep them.  I refused growth and I suffered for it.  And then one day I gave birth again.  I transformed whether I wanted to or not.  And all the fear and resistance I held onto no longer mattered.  I am reminded that when change stalks you, you may as well just surrender.  You just can’t stop a birth. 

So here I am again.  Change is stalking me.  It is coming.  Change is here.  I am reminded not to fight it.  My growth is inevitable.  I am being transformed and expanded, and born again.  I face a new me. I have given birth to myself today.  I left an old idea behind.  I stretched beyond what I was, and entered into now.  I have changed. New things are possible now. 

Got Sensitivity? Radical. – Monica Myers

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart”Helen Keller

As a child, one of the messages I received fairly consistently was, “don’t be so sensitive!” and “you’re too sensitive.” Things deeply touched me. I teared up easily—whether it was in response to my older brother hurling insults at me, the suffering of a small furry creature, or the lonely and dejected 12-year-old protagonist in a book. My rich and complex inner life was sometimes mistaken for shyness. Over time, without realizing it, I adopted an underlying assumption that “something is fundamentally wrong with me” and I spent my young adulthood struggling to overcome this weakness.

We can go to great lengths to bury the fear that something is wrong with us and we rationalize it away. We may not even be aware we hold these damaging self-judgments. On the journey to wholeness, though, they will make themselves known, without a doubt.

Before I became a therapist, I taught for many years in the English Department at Front Range Community College. Early in my career, perhaps in my second year of teaching, I experienced a potent moment in class that I can still see with vivid distinctness in my mind’s eye. My Basic Composition students were work shopping polished drafts of their personal narrative essays in small groups. This was a class of struggling “developmental” writers who generally had never been praised for their writing. I wanted my students to realize they had a voice and that their voice mattered, that their stories were meaningful and offered us opportunities for connection.

Untitled-1Toward the end of class, I asked if anyone wanted to read their narrative aloud. After a pregnant pause, much to my surprise, a student who I knew was taking the course for the second time, volunteered to read his paper. Jamie stood up and began with a faltering voice that became more confident as his reading progressed. I looked around to see an engrossed class. He told the story of a drug deal gone very wrong on the hill in Boulder. He was with his best friend and they were young and stupid, he said. Even though I knew the tragic ending to this true story, I still was unprepared for the well of emotion that began arising in me like a wave. His best friend, just a teen, lost his life that night. Jamie stood there humbled and unsure of himself as he finished reading and the class was silent.

I can’t remember what exactly I said that day in response to the courage it took that young man to reveal himself and his pain, but I do know that I was unsuccessful in suppressing my tears. The lump in my throat gave way, and suddenly I found myself crying. In front of the whole class. I was horrified.

In a competitive and achievement oriented society, we are taught that there are certain expectations and best practices around professionalism in the workplace, including rationality. Emotionality certainly isn’t one of them. Of course, I knew this. And I had failed miserably.

Or so I thought.

In fact, my tears did surprise the class, but in a very positive way. The class began to understand how sharing their truth and witnessing others’ personal stories can weave us together. Jamie was stunned to learn that his words had the power to move other people. After I got over my initial embarrassment, the following period the class dropped to a whole new level. We were able to deepen our discussion. Things became more real.

This experience marked the beginning of my resolve to release my self-judgments and work toward accepting my sensitive nature. Because our habitual tendencies can be so ingrained, it takes inner resolve and active training of the heart and mind to change the trance of our negative self-judgments. They are like familiar old friends lurking in the background. We are used to having them around.

I love Tara Brach’s term for this resolve and practice:  Radical Acceptance. She states,

Radical Acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our life as it is….When we practice Radical Acceptance, we begin with the fears and wounds of our own life and discover that our heart of compassion widens endlessly. In holding ourselves with compassion, we become free to love this living world. This is the blessing of Radical Acceptance: As we free ourselves from the suffering of  “something is wrong with me,” we trust and express the fullness of who we are.

I have deepened my appreciation for my own watery nature and now view it as a gift.

I have learned that emotions have great wisdom.

Personally, allowing their full expression gives me a greater sense of freedom. Most of the time, I am no longer swimming upstream anymore. And if the authentic expression of my inner experience gives others permission to do the same, I am filled with gratitude. My sensitivity has evolved from a weakness into strong intuition and emotional intelligence.

I think it’s okay to reclaim human dignity with heartfelt compassion and tenderness. In fact, I would argue, given the stresses of our modern society, we need to offer this to others and ourselves more than ever. In what way could you begin practicing radical acceptance?

Monica Myers, MPH, LPCC is a therapist and educator practicing in both Denver and Boulder. She loves to hear from you—please email your comments, questions, and curiosities to monimyers69@gmail.com

Think you can’t Afford Counseling? Low Cost Therapy is Available

From the maxed-out mom who finds comfort in a community support group to the recent retiree who needs help pinpointing the source of his blues, access to adequate, affordable treatment and support is essential for millions of American with mental health concerns. But with state budget cuts threatening local services and programs across the country, the people who need these services most could see their support systems disappear.

A recent report from the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) found that more than half of Americans with mental and emotional issues don’t get help – and that number is only expected to grow as states slash their mental health care budgets in response to growing deficits.

But if you need mental health attention and you can’t afford it, the last thing you should do is nothing.


If you are in the situation where you are financially unable to get treatment through large care providers, then there are some things to consider. The first is whether you have health insurance. Sometimes insurance can be more of a burden than a help since it will disqualify you from certain programs. Add in high deductibles, large co-pays, and large premiums and you may find yourself still not being able to afford treatment.

If you don’t have insurance and don’t qualify for a financial assistance program, your options diminish. There is a large group of people who fall into this category. Usually your income will fall in a range that disqualifies you for government assistance and other private assistance programs while also being unable to afford costly insurance payments. Worried? Don’t be.

You’re not out of options.


In this situation you will need to find private free clinics or mental health centers that offer a sliding scaleGo grassroots. Mental health organizations, such as NAMI and Mental Health America (MHA), have made it their mission to help every American find a mental health care solution. These grassroots advocacy organizations have local affiliates spanning all states — they’re generally small groups that can assist you in identifying local, low-cost, high quality care.

So if you can’t afford traditionally priced therapy, know that other options are available. Your mental health does matter and having the courage to reach out is hard enough without having to feel as though you can’t access the help you need. It takes a little digging sometimes, but it’s well worth it, because you can’t afford to do nothing.

People House has a program that offers low cost therapy, it operates on a sliding fee scale with rates between $20-$40. It is a cost effective option, check out the counselors in our Affordable Counseling Program here 

Where to start?

NAMI and MHA are great resources. You can find information on your local state chapter online, as well as contact information and further resource lists. There are many therapists, social workers, and other mental health professionals offering slide scale and low-cost services. You can also look for support groups and process groups, many of which you can find offered for a low fee, on a donation basis, and even free.

Starting Therapy

If you’ve done your research and decided that you want to see a therapist, the next step is to contact the professionals you’re interested in working with to set up an initial appointment. If you found the therapist online, there is probably contact information listed.

Emailing or calling the therapist is normal and expected – that is how they get clients!


Making the first phone call can be the hardest part, but it will be well worth the benefit! Prepare what you want to say before making the call so that you can be clear about your needs, even if you’re nervous or anxious to talk about them. Some things to consider are: why you’re seeking counseling, what you want to work on with a therapist, what you can afford to pay, and what your availability is. You might also consider asking questions about the therapist’s practice and areas of focus.

You can decide whether you want to feel confident about your connection with a therapist before making a first appointment or if you want to wait and see how things go in person. Some therapists offer a free short consultation! They understand that the relationship between the therapist and client (you) is of the utmost importance, so it is important to them that you two are the right match. Don’t be afraid to ask the therapist if they offer a free (or discounted) consultation/initial meeting.

It’s important to remember that finding a therapist is a unique process and you should never feel like you have to work with the first person you reach. You get to advocate for yourself. If you don’t feel like it’s a good match, it’s okay to thank the therapist for their time and find someone else.

Some Tips for Surviving Your First Session:

  • Don’t schedule something for immediately after your appointment. You might want some time to decompress and think through what came up for you in your session.
  • Write down a list of what you’d like to tell the therapist. If, during the session, you get too anxious, you can give this list to the therapist to give her a starting point.
  • If you’re unsure where to start, tell your therapist that you need some help or guidance.
  • Only say what you’re comfortable with saying – you don’t have to go into everything in your first session.
  • If you can’t bring yourself to say something, ask the therapist if you can write it down. Many therapists have pen and paper for this exact purpose!
  • Remember that you are always in control of what and how much you say.
  • Bring a comfort object with you.
  • Find a comfortable sitting position. If you don’t like where the pillows are, move them!
  • Be gentle with yourself. You are making a huge step in your healing process.
  • Treat yourself to something special after your appointment. You deserve it.

 

 

Resources

http://www.bandbacktogether.com/what-to-expect-therapist-visit/

http://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-health/0329/ways-to-get-cheap-mental-health-care.aspx

http://jaredwilmer.com/i-cant-afford-mental-health-care/

Warriors Way LLC: 4 Ways to Boost Your Confidence – Glenn Bott

We all use the word CONFIDENCE, but what does it really mean to you?  When I use the word, it implies the following:

  • Trust and acceptance in who you are
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  • Trust in Spirit
  • Accepting responsibility for your actions and their outcomes
  • Willing and able to take the next step

Confidence is a sliding scale – we have various levels of confidence depending on the task or goal at hand.  Some are very confident in their ability to speak publicly, while others tremble.  Likewise, some are confident in their ability to achieve group consensus while others are severely lacking in this skill.  Each of us is unique, and our confidence will likely vary day/day, depending on the task.

No matter what our confidence level, we can constantly improve.  Here are some ideas that may help you move your confidence upward:

1. Trash your black and white definition of “failure”. Instead of thinking of it as a final label, thinks of it as something that happened at a particular time to a particular effort.  It was a once-in-a-lifetime occurrence.  You’re a capable and intelligent being – you will learn from this and do better the next time.

To increase your confidence, re-frame your thoughts and start thinking of life as an adventure.  Know of anyone who’s failed at an adventure?  Me neither.  When you view life as an adventure you automatically move into a more fun-loving mode and everything you do is just more exploration from your base camp.  No one can possibly know everything about even the simplest of subjects.  Loosen up – have some fun. Explore.

2. Say YES more often to the things that make your heart dance. Rather than get stuck and rigid in the things you should do because you’re a good boy/girl, take a moment to check inside and see if the proposal is making your heart dance.  Do you light up at the thought of doing it?  If this is the case, do this more often to help broaden your horizons, increase your confidence, and realize that you were living by your self-imposed rules all along.

When you do this you’re acting in alignment with your Spirit and this is a path on your goal of becoming who you really are.  This builds trust in yourself, strengthens your awareness, and unifies your being.  Just keep taking the next step – you’ll be fine!

3. Embrace your shortcomings. We’re all unique beings with our own strengths, weaknesses, preferences, and knowledge. To really be confident and successful, accept all parts of yourself, even what you see as your imperfections.  Chances are you picked up these silly notions from your childhood and haven’t taken the time to put them down and leave them behind you.  You are probably the only one who notices them.  They’ve become a part of your story.  So now’s the time to change your story for the better.

Rather than spend your time trying to excel at everything you do, I suggest taking an inventory of the things you truly love doing and already excel at.  Focus on these and find others who excel at the skills you need help with.  This is the beauty of a virtual organization – everyone is doing what they love and doing it at a very high level of proficiency.

  1. gfMind your internal dialogue – develop the discipline to check in on your thoughts and see if they’re helping or hurting you. Our mind can be our ally or our enemy.  We choose.  Check in periodically and see if the story that’s running in your head is a good one or not.  Start to develop the mental discipline to check in and start changing a story that no longer serves you.  Remember – we’re all creators.  If you don’t like what’s happening, you’re the only one who can change it.

We all deserve to live joyful and fulfilling lives.  Now’s the time to claim your power and start creating a totally awesome life!

 

 

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